Sad News

I’m sorry to say that the reason we haven’t posted in a while is because Josh’s Dad, my father-in-law, passed away. He died in his sleep on March 26th at 11:21pm at his home in Campbell, California.

When Josh and I got the news we were on our way back from an island in the northeast of Malaysia. We started a journey home that took us on two boats, three cars and four planes. I learned that Jewish funerals must happen very quickly after death and it was imperative that we make it back ASAP. We landed in San Francisco the day before the funeral, which was on Tuesday, March 29th.

If you’re wondering how Josh is doing… it’s definitely a sad time losing a father and his last parent, but he’s a rock. He lost his Mother, Margaret, in 2005 from cancer. Like then, he was prepared for this outcome. In addition to heart surgeries and problems over the past few years, Don was in the hospital this past December. He decided to enter into at-home hospice care. Josh and I were lucky enough to be in a place in our lives to come to California for three months to spend quality time with him. Every day we were here was used to say I love you’s, hold hands and scratch Don’s back (which he loved).

I often think about Josh’s Mum and how I would have like to have known her. She and Don raised an amazing son (in my biased opinion) and I consider myself really lucky to have know Don. Over the years Josh and I have been together Don came to visit us in DC, we made a few trips to see him in California, including Chanukah and his birthday, sailing on his boat and he was an important part of our wedding last May, creating memories we’ll cherish.

One of my favorite memories was just before Christmas 2009 when Don (a surgeon) was visiting Josh and I in DC. Don and I jealously dropped Josh off at the White House, where he was going to one of the staff holiday parties, and the two of us went to Johnny’s on the Half Shell on Capitol Hill. Over a delicious dinner (he loved lobster and laboriously picked his clean), I thought I was being a good future daughter-in-law by asking about his career as a doctor. Without thinking, I managed to ask “why don’t women get prostate cancer?” I wanted to hit hand to forehead, but he didn’t make me feel like the idiot I was. We talked for a while, he explained the surgery he developed and I learned a lot that night.

He was a good man. He will be missed and remembered always.

As a patient who wrote to Don on his online obituary said: “…now you can go sailing in any port…”

Read the obituary here.

 

Friday, April 01, 2011 3:37 pm EDT
Campbell, CA, USA

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19 Responses to “Sad News”
  1. Margo Scott Dunn says:

    Josh,

    Brian and I are so sorry for your loss. Wherever your next adventures take you, I’m sure you father will be with you both in spirit.

    Best,

    Margo and Brian Dunn

  2. Beth Hetzler says:

    Josh and Sasha – I am so sorry to hear this news, but am so glad you got to spend such a good time with him the past few months. Its strange how things work out sometimes, and I’m sure he was grateful both that you were there with him and that you continued on your trip. I’m sure this is a hard time but I wish you the best.

    Hug,
    Beth

  3. Brad Madlem says:

    Well said Sasha. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and memories in this difficult time. My heart goes out to you and Josh. All the best.

    Brad

  4. Wendi says:

    Dearest Josh and Sasha,
    My heart goes out to you both and I wish that I could give you a very big hug. May your father’s memory be a blessing to you.
    Much love,
    Wendi and the boys

  5. Trish Hoppey says:

    My condolences… what wonderful memories you have. Sending you both much love.

  6. Kitty dillon says:

    You both are in my thoughts and prayers.

  7. Fred Bone says:

    Thanks for sharing your feelings and love at this time. Hope you enjoy the rest of your trip.

    Fred

  8. Beth Hernandez says:

    So sad to hear this news. Y’all are in my thoughts and prayers.

    Beth

  9. Kim Huck says:

    Sasha and Josh, I am so sorry for your loss. The wonderful memories you carry in your heart will help heal the pain you are suffering. I lost my Mother last June, and there isn’t a day goes by, that I don’t think of a special memory we shared. May Dr. Peck rest in peace.

  10. Lynn says:

    Josh and Sasha, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Josh’s dad sounds like an amazing guy and it’s wonderful that you both were able to spend those 3 months with him. Sending you both big hugs.

    Lynn

  11. Delacey says:

    Josh and Sasha,

    I am so sorry for your loss, and I’m thinking of you in this sad time. Thank you Sasha, for the beautiful post sharing the news. Josh, I’m so glad you were able to spend the time with him, and so glad you and Sasha have each other. Wishing you peace and solace in your grief.

    Delacey

  12. Erika says:

    So sorry to hear of your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

  13. Gretchen says:

    I’m so sorry, Josh and Sasha. Sending you both a big hug and thoughts of healing and peace.

  14. Joshua Peck says:

    Thanks to all of you for your thoughts and support. It means a lot.

  15. Erin says:

    I am sorry for your loss. my thoughts are with you both at this time.

  16. Paul says:

    May he rest in peace.

  17. Joanne Corr says:

    My thoughts and prayers are with you both at this sad time. it is a blessing though that you had some time together to make sure nothing was left unsaid… I hope those times keep you comforted.

    & Sasha – what a beautiful piece you have written. It is so full of love both for your father in law and Josh and was, despite the sad topic, lovely to read. Hope you are both well and safe on your travels again. love & hugs to you both. xxx

  18. Nathan Peck says:

    This has been a difficult couple of weeks. I was reading the comments people left and they’re right. Sasha, what you wrote was nothing short of amazing. the upside of all of this tragedy is it we all got to spend much time together and get to know each other… good and bad. even though dad was not well, I enjoyed most I think of any time in my entire life

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